Heal the patterns that keep you stuck in painful relationships.

 

You're not "bad at relationships." You may be repeating emotional patterns you never learned how to heal. This can be true for all types of relationships. 

 

If you find yourself...

 

  • Ignoring red flags
  • Over-giving and feeling unappreciated
  • Settling for less than you deserve
  • Loving people harder than you love yourself
  • Repeating painful relationship cycles 

 

You’re not alone — and you’re in the right place.

Ladies

Inside your journey with Dr. La, you will begin to:

 

  • - Learn how to love without losing yourself.
  • - Stop ignoring red flags and trust yourself again.
  • - Gain clarity on why you keep repeating the same relationship cycle
  • - Start protecting your heart like it actually matters (because it does).
  • - Choose relationships from healing and confidence instead of loneliness, pain, or emotion.
 

I'm Dr. La

After many years of codependency and surviving a 15-year emotionally abusive relationship,

 I lost pieces of myself—my career, my health, my independence—and I didn’t know how to find the strong woman I once was.

I gave endlessly to family, friends, and even strangers. I thought that was love. I thought that was strength.

Finding Jesus, and finding a community like Hiding Behind the Strength/Love Without Losing Yourself w/Dr. La, helped save my life. 

Today—and every day moving forward—I’m here to do the same for you.

If you feel stuck, lost, or broken, please know this: it’s not how you start; it's how you finish.

 WORK WITH ME.

Working with me is about reclaiming your power and finally putting yourself back at the center of your life. If you’ve spent years being the strong one—the one everyone relies on, stays in relationships that don't serve you, the one who gives, fixes, and holds it all together—you may have lost touch with your own needs, desires, and voice. Together, we’ll gently uncover the patterns that keep you over-giving, stuck in exhaustion, and replace them with boundaries, confidence, and deep self-trust. I’ll guide you step by step as you learn to stop doing everything for everyone else, excepting crumbs in your relationships, and staying in relationships longer than you should. You don’t have to carry it all anymore and you don't have to settle in relationships just to feel less lonely—you get to rise, be supported and empowered, into the woman you were always meant to be.

Choose "YOU" Today
 

Hiding Behind the Strength Membership

(Love Without Losing Yourself w/Dr. La)

 

The Hiding Behind the Strength Hub/Community is a membership designed to help you work through repeated patterns, rebuild your sense of self, and begin healing from the inside out—at your own pace and on your own time.

Inside, you’ll get access to:

  • Guided healing lessons
  • Self-reflection worksheets and exercises
  • Emotional regulation tools
  • Relationship and self-worth work
  • Faith-based encouragement options 
  • A community of women navigating similar struggles

This membership is a supportive and affordable space for women ready to do the real inner work. While it does not replace one-on-one coaching or therapy, it offers practical tools, guidance, and support to help you grow emotionally and personally—one step at a time.

 

 

Join The Membership

 

Why I Keep Falling for Emotionally Unavailable Men

(8 week Transformational Course)

 

You keep telling yourself this time will be different… yet somehow you end up in the same painful cycle — chasing consistency, overthinking mixed signals, settling for breadcrumbs, and losing yourself trying to be enough for someone who cannot fully love you back.

This 8-week transformational course is designed for women who are tired of confusing chaos with chemistry and exhaustion with love. Together, we’ll uncover the hidden patterns, childhood wounds, emotional conditioning, and self-abandoning behaviors that keep attracting emotionally unavailable relationships.

This is not just about dating.
It’s about healing the version of you that learned to accept less, over-give, over-perform, and stay connected to people who cannot meet you emotionally.

Because healthy love should NOT require you to betray yourself to keep it.

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Becoming with Dr. La Newsletter

Becoming with Dr. La delivers bi-weekly support, real conversations, and honest insight to help you slow down, reconnect, and begin choosing yourself again—even in the midst of your life’s constant noise.

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Books by Dr. La

Her literature is geared towards life, relationships, and helping women gain their power back. She's now working on a secret new book. Dr. La writes with our everyday lives and relationships in mind. Issues we have trouble navigating, she cuts right through them in her writings, giving her readers secure legs to stand on as they struggle through the fight.

Not to mention her transparent approach and easy reads, which allows her readers to get through her books quickly while getting to know her on a deeper level. 

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